I have always thought I'll be a modern Mum. One who would be my child's friend. Someone who will share clothes with her teenage daughter and who will be cool with her having a boyfriend. Yeap! I was a cool Mum UNTIL I BECAME A MUM!
I gave my 15 year old daughter a long lecture about dressing that I never thought I would. The world has changed my perspective about being IN. If being IN is having to show your navel or your crack or even your butt chicks, I would prefer to be out dated. How gross to be having a meal and catching a glimpse of someone's crack.
Parents, are we so out of it that we don't bother what our children wear these days? Don't we still have a say in what our children wear? Aren't we the ones paying for their clothes? I think if parents stand up for good moral standards, we might see less disgusting behaviours in public.
Can we blame everything to media? What our children watch and listen to these days are big contributions to their moral degradation but I believe, if parents hold on to their beliefs and moral upbringing, we can fight this battle and maybe win.
Yes, we can't control everything our children do but we can teach and guide them. Aren't we guardians of our children? They may not belong to us as they will one day grow up and live their own lives but for now, we do play an important role in their upbringing. How can they behave well when we don't teach it to them?
4 comments:
Jo, nice blog. Glad to see at least one of my wife's friends being IT savvy. HAHA.
I know exactly what you mean in your posting. I also try to be the cool dad. But despite publicly declaring "the kids need to learn from their own mistakes", i cannot bring myself to let them actually do it. I still tend to smother them.
We contradict ourselves like this because, i believe, because we all remember how painful it was when we went through this learning process ourselves. No "sane" parent wishes to inflict pain on their kids consciously, right ?
But then again - at least in my case - i have to ask "will my child actually learn faster if her peers teach them the lesson ?"
We have to admit our kids do sometimes take us for granted don't they ? Because they've heard the same advice from us so many time before ? (i know i still tune out when my older relatives start harping on me about this & that)
So i guess the best compromise is to a) warn the buggers, b) let them be, c) let them kena, d) nurse & comfort them and then e) say "see ? i told you so" !!
In the corporate world, we would call this doing a post-mortem. But post-mortem means, someone had to mati already. It's an expensive lesson. How many of us are willing to pay the price ?
Sorry for the long post. But seeing as your so called "girl" friends never post any comments, i thought i'd let the guys pick up the slack.
Hi Madam
Very good article. Sorry to say that I am very OLD FASHION. I still don't agree to let them have their choice. If dressing this way create problem like unwanted attention, it may become an expensive mistake. Yeah, let us all mothers fight this battle together.
Pearl
We need to let people know that the victims of the consequence of their choice of clothing, skimpy tops and microminis- maybe an innocent 3rd person. The "worked up" perp will probably molest or rape an innocent young, old, handicapped
(there no limit to human degradation and wearing horse blinkers will not make it go away)person who they have easy access to.
We should all get together on this and I believe we can make a small difference, at least in our community...
Jo, I'm not a mum yet and I still think it's gross to see someone's butt cheeks. Navel ok lah. But butt? Yucks. No appetite to eat! Haha. Seriously, we all want to be buddy buddy with kids but we have to draw the line somewhere. I guess I will end up being like my mum when I do have kids - strict! Better strict than lenient.
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